Today on the podcast:
Joan Rosenberg, PhD is a psychologist, bestselling author, corporate wellness consultant, and media expert who is known globally as an acclaimed speaker and trainer on communication, confidence, resilience, authenticity and grief.
As a three-time TEDx speaker and member of the Association of Transformational Leaders, she has been recognized for her innovative Emotional Mastery and confidence building approach, and for her thought leadership and global influence in personal development.
Her latest book is 90 Seconds to a Life You Love: How to Master Your Difficult Feelings to Cultivate Lasting Confidence, Resilience and Authenticity is available now and we’ll be diving into it in today’s show. Enjoy.
- 06:15 Dr. Rosenberg’s journey
- 08:05 Dr. Rosenberg’s formula – Rosenberg reset
- 13:10 Do people struggle with the awareness around feelings?
- 15:20 Escalating conflict and anger is a decision
- 19:30 Main dependence control, taking a point or aspect of life, when people show composure, and applying it in another direction
- 22:25 The importance of developing emotional strength
- 25:00 Harsh self-criticism
- 31:57 Experiences are disguised grief
- 35:50 How do you recommend releasing pain, experiences, or stories you are holding onto?
- 41:33 Resilience – how to develop it
- One choice, eight feelings.
It all starts with the one choice, awareness. The eight feelings are the unpleasant feelings, which are: sadness, shame, helplessness, anger, vulnerability, embarrassment, disappointment, and frustration.
- We shut down when we are hurt.
We practice disconnecting, we are disconnecting from the awareness of what is happening in our bodies. As it’s a learnt behavior, thankfully we can unlearn it too.
- If I start to raise my voice, or I start to be mean, or start to curse or throw things, that is “doing anger” not “expressing anger”.
People confuse rage and anger. If I can say “that made me angry” in a calm tone, that is expressing anger, but if I start to escalate, now I’m doing anger. Confusing the two is a recipe for bad things to happen.
Powerful Quotes by Dr. Rosenberg
- The foundational aspect of confidence is your ability to handle unpleasant feelings.
- Being emotional is a choice. If you can control yourself at work, surely you can control yourself at home, it’s a decision.
- Doubt is a form of harsh self-criticism
- With the right tools, you get to put your old life story behind you; and you get to choose a new life story for yourself.
Dr. Joan Rosenberg