<p>There are books out there and experts who are much better qualified to speak on this topic; but understanding these all helped me so much over the years, so I wanted to share them in today’s podcast.</p>
<p>Hopefully it helps.</p>
<h2 class="wp-block-heading">Episode Outline</h2>
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<li><a href="#t=04:55">04:55</a> Projection and handling my own insecurities</li>
<li><a href="#t=16:28">16:28</a> Opportunity cost and spending time doing the wrong thing or with the wrong people</li>
<li><a href="#t=21:22">21:22</a> Sunk-cost fallacy and continuing to do something even though you know your ladder is against the wrong wall</li>
<li><a href="#t=26:13">26:13</a> Confirmation bias and the problem with being in an echo chamber with emotional vampires</li>
<li><a href="#t=32:24">32:24</a> Forward projection and future self techniques</li>
<li><a href="#t=37:36">37:36</a> Pre-mortems or unpacking the worst-case scenario</li>
<li><a href="#t=45:38">45:38</a> Hindsight bias and why people will have an opinion on whatever you decide to do (so you may as well do the things you want)</li>
<li><a href="#t=50:03">50:03</a> Negativity bias and why negative comments take up so much mental real estate</li>
<li><a href="#t=54:09">54:09</a> Action bias and shiny object syndrome</li>
<li><a href="#t=59:37">59:37</a> The “I’ll be happy when…” fallacy</li>
<li><a href="#t=1:02:29">1:02:29</a> Attachment styles – anxious, avoidant, and secure</li>
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<h2 class="wp-block-heading">Key Points</h2>
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<li>Catch yourself projecting your insecurities onto others by first recognizing that a lot of it happens underneath the surface. Projection is ego-driven and is often triggered by the comparison trap. Similarly, any belief we hold, including about ourselves, contains in it a tendency to fall into confirmation bias to reinforce those beliefs, whether from the things we read or watch online or from the people we listen to.</li>
<li>If you had to start from zero today, would you keep doing what you’re doing? If this was the only relationship/job/nutrition or training plan you can have for the rest of your life, would you be happy? Asking yourself these questions on a regular basis will stop you from falling into the sunk-cost fallacy and live a more fulfilled life lived on your own terms. Along with this, understand that happiness is a journey, not an event. Happiness comes to those with an abundance mindset, and not a scarcity mindset.</li>
<li>When it comes to the bigger questions and decisions, ask yourself how your future self would regard your current circumstances before making a choice. Conducting a pre-mortem before taking action is also extremely valuable so that you can always keep the worst-case scenario of any situation firmly in mind to guide you.</li>
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<h2 class="wp-block-heading">Powerful Quotes by Brian</h2>
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<li>Being able to separate opinions from facts is the first step towards critical analysis on anything that’s being offered to you, whether it’s opinions or advice.</li>
<li>In order to get the things you want, you should let the right things catch up to you.</li>
<li>You’re better off at the bottom of the ladder against the right wall than halfway up the ladder against the wrong wall.</li>
<li>If you’re trying to minimize your regrets in life, one of the ways you can do that is by fast-forwarding to your deathbed.</li>
<li>Live life on your terms because people are going to have an opinion on what you do regardless of what you do – whether it’s good, bad, indifferent, right, or wrong.</li>
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